Unlocking the Secrets of Self-Esteem: A Guide to Building Confidence and Connection One Step at a Time.                       Paperback workbook
If you don’t feel good about yourself, it can be difficult to reach your goals and live a happy, meaningful life. You may have already read countless books on building self-esteem, but after a while you end up right where you started—feeling like you just aren’t good enough. So, what are the real secrets to genuine, lasting self-esteem?
Most books on self-esteem tell you that you should feel good about yourself, but they don’t show you how to put self-esteem into action. In this book, psychologist Marie Hartwell-Walker offers a groundbreaking new approach to self-esteem based in mindfulness and positive psychology. This book provides practical, step-by-step strategies and skills to help you develop feelings of competency, gain resiliency, rebuild self-confidence, and feel good by engaging in positive actions.
Self-confidence is more than just a way of being—it’s a way of doing! By taking steps to solve problems and overcome roadblocks by helping yourself (and others!), you will learn to practice self-confidence, rather than just think about it. If you’re ready to learn the secrets to genuine self-esteem, and put what you’ve learned into action, this book will show you how.


Reader Reviews:

“The key to boosting your self-esteem is to change not just how you think, but what you do. That’s the light bulb idea in Hartwell-Walker’s eye-opening, empowering new book.”
—Marianne Wait, health editor and writer

–“This book is a winner! After convincing us that genuine self-esteem must combine doing good in the world with thinking good about yourself, it shows in clear, practical ways how to progress toward those goals.—George Levinger, emeritus professor of psychology at the University of Massachusetts Amherst


Tending the Family Heart through the Holidays
e-book available on Kindle and Nook

The heart of even the best of families deserves tending and care. With some thoughtfulness and attention, the heart of most families, like the Grinch’s, can grow a size or two this year.

This collection of 31 essays will provide you with down-to-earth tips and strategies you can use today to help improve your family time this holiday season. Taking better care of oneself through involvement in community activities and celebrations with friends can help the lonely feel a little less alone and those who are in challenging families feel less disappointed. At best we can actively nurture our family and add to its sense of warmth and home.At the very least, we can all learn better ways to cope. Includes a new introduction and epilogue written exclusively for this edition, as well 8 brand new essays; Most of the remaining essays for this edition have also been updated.


Reader Reviews:

–Not too deep,quick read,good tips…we need more to communicate on this subject thank you. It helps me as mother in law, grandma find a little peace.

–Dr. Marie Hartwell-Walker brings her extensive and open-hearted life experience as a mother, wife, family member and friend to this helpful book. Numerous pleasures and pitfalls are explored which help readers craft their own ways of loving and supporting their families throughout the holidays and indeed through year-long family life… Practical, loving and inspiring.


Tending the Family Heart:
Connecting Your Family in Disconnecting Times
e-book available on Kindle and Nook

Family therapist and parent educator, Dr. Marie Hartwell-Walker, highlights the importance of creating and nurturing the “heart part” of our families; that almost magical bond that interconnects every family member with all the others. It is the heart that provides safety and warmth to all within its embrace. It is what transforms the very ordinary and repetitious tasks of daily life into expressions of mutual support and care. It is what celebrates the dailyness of love and belonging and helps everyone cope in times of challenges, separations, and even tragedies. When the “heart part” is strong, it provides both children and adults with what they need emotionally and psychologically to become their best versions of themselves in spite of whatever stresses come their way.

Parents are doing the best they can to parent well in spite of too little validation and conflicting messages regarding their own importance in the project. Hungry for information and support, parents are blogging, attending parent study groups, reading parenting self-help books, and talking with each other.

In Tending the Family Heart, Dr. Marie joins the conversation, affirming the importance of family and validating the centrality of parental influence. Using ordinary stories from ordinary families as examples, she makes her suggestions accessible and manageable for even the busiest parent. The tone is conversational and upbeat, encouraging parents to sort through the many ideas and to decide for themselves what will work in their families or what can be adapted to their own realities.

Reader reviews

:–Marie Hartwell Walker has written an insightful book that we can all learn from. She shares practical information and provides examples and anecdotes to illustrate her points. If you’ve ever been stumped by a parenting problem this book is for you

–This book should serve as an almanac for families. Practical advice that won’t take time out of your day. Was very relatable, I felt like I was reading about my own family!



       Songs for Elementary Emotional Development

By Wayne Scott Frieden, M.Ed. and Marie Hartwell-Walker, Ed.D.


Published in 1982 as a classroom guidance kit, the book included tapes of songs, sheet music, and activities for teachers to use with children from kindergarten through grade 6. Grounded in the theory of Alfred Adler and the practice of Rudolf Dreikurs, the songs are intended to provide teachers and elementary guidance counselors with a non-threatening way to engage children in discussions about identity, behavior, and group membership.

The songs have taken on a life of their own. Since they were first published my coauthor and I have received letters from all over the United States and the world. We’ve heard from teachers in Greece, France, and Germany who have translated them for their students. Leaders of parent study groups in the US and Canada have written to share how they’ve used them to lighten up meetings. A jug band in Tennessee wrote to tell us they were a fun addition to their comedy act. Someone put the tapes on Youtube. Fine with us! We are happy to share them with anyone who finds them helpful. You can find the sheet music by clicking on the “Songs” tab of this website.

Although now out of print, sometimes used copies of the kit are available for purchase on e-Bay, or Barnes and If you find and use the kit, please do write if the spirit moves you. We do love hearing about new ways that teachers and parents (and even jug bands) have used them.